You Have Never Been Alone
How to do you feel when you hear the words friendship, camaraderie, good company, partnership, alliance, amity? It sounds good, right? Have you ever shown up to someone’s house only to find out that the party was the night before? Well that was me tonight. It was definitely my fault, but I have to admit, I went home a bit disappointed because I wanted to hang out with my friends. I was anticipating friendship, camaraderie, good company, partnership, alliance, amity.
We are social beings, created to be in relationship with others.
I know loneliness is something that everyone has felt at some point or another. Sometimes we feel lonely because we are excluded, have moved, or struggle to talk to people. Sometimes we may not seem to have a ‘reason’ to feel lonely; maybe we are a part of a large family, have a handful of friends or see people every day at work. But we all experience these feelings, and they should never be disregarded or overlooked.
Jesus does not overlook you.
Loneliness is real for the person with all the friends, and loneliness if real for the person with no friends. Which begs the question…if people aren’t isolated and are around other people every day, why are so many of us lonely? It’s not just merely being around people that makes us feel loved and cared for, it’s the sincerity and depth of our conversations. Even more than this, it is the generosity and willingness of our actions that follow; it’s the longing to be fully known and fully understood. This can only happen when we are aware of the people around us. The person who is focused on themselves will wait to be invited, wait for others to start conversations, wait for others to call or text, and generally will talk more about themselves. The person who is aware of others will seek out people; whether it’s an invite, a call or a text- and they will show genuine interest in others.
God is fully aware of you and He knows you more than your know yourself.
If you are struggling with loneliness, can I challenge you with this thought? Don’t focus on the fact that you’re feeling lonely, but think about how you can make others feel welcomed and loved. In this day and age, it’s easy to acquire the ‘me, me, me’ syndrome. It is important we care for ourselves, are aware of our feelings and know we are valuable; but I believe that we can ‘take the road less traveled’ and be about others more than ourselves. Our generation is known for thinking outside the box and thinking big. We have huge dreams, and many of them involve helping others. So let’s continue the journey and see just how much we can impact our world by taking care of each other. When we give of our time, energy and possessions, we let people know they are not alone. We remind them that they are valuable. Whatever your goal in life may be, you’ll find that if you want something bad enough, you’ll be willing to invest whatever it takes to get it. It’s the whole ‘golden rule’ principle: “Treat others how you want to be treated.” Let’s give of ourselves regardless of whether it brings us friends or not. Let’s give with no expectations of return on their part. When we give of ourselves, it’s to help and encourage others, and let them know that they’re cared for and being listened to. Be the friend you want to have, and you will create friendships that matter.
Jesus gave Himself for us.
As human beings, we all experience loneliness; but in these moments, we can come to Jesus. He’s the only friend that is and will be available 24/7. You can depend on Him fully.
God is described as our Counselor, Comforter, and Friend.
Be comforted in knowing that you have truly never been alone.
“You were created to love and be loved. You were meant to live life in relationship with other people, to know and be known. You need to know your story is important, and you’re part of a bigger story. You need to know your life matters.” - Jamie Tworkowski