Refuse Defeat and Celebrate the Wins

Refuse Defeat and Celebrate the Wins

Sometimes we can be too hard on ourselves. We seem to believe all too easily that we’re not doing enough, that what we are doing is not making a difference. We believe that we aren’t good enough, that we aren’t fit to do what we really want to do.

Can I tell you a secret? There is always someone around us that can see our potential. They can see our abilities, our talents, and the things we’re good at. It’s okay to ask them what they see in us; it’s okay to admit that sometimes we need to hear this, because in that moment we just don’t believe it.

Then there comes a moment when we can choose. When we have felt all that is negative and when we have heard what is positive. We know there is a light that exists. We can choose to believe in what is positive or we can choose to stay in what I call a depressing rut. We can choose either to lie down and be defeated or to not look back, not once, and overcome.

When we’re feeling defeated it can stem from real depression, an event that’s really affected us, or maybe it’s just been a bad day. Or maybe we give self-pity too much credit. That’s when we need to ask ourselves:

How long have I felt like this? Are these feelings on-going? What specifically has caused me to feel this way or is there a cause?

It’s important that we identify the root of our emotions and thoughts. Once we have identified the root we can then decide how we should respond. If it’s just been a bad day, we can shake the dust and tell ourselves that life really is great, even if we don’t feel like it in the moment. We can look forward to a better tomorrow. Feelings don’t always tell the truth. If there’s been a significant event that has really impacted us…then maybe it’s time we look at going to a counsellor. And since dealing with life’s issues is their profession, why not learn from them? Or maybe we just need to have a good long chat with a best friend or close relative; someone who is encouraging and gives good advice.

The point is…we must refuse to stay in that place of negativity. We just have too. We have to start telling ourselves that we have good things to offer, that the world does need us.

Just like there is only one me, there is only one you. There are no duplicates, ever. The mix of personality and talent is specific to each person. It’s what makes us unique and sets us apart.

Why don’t we celebrate these differences more often? Why are we so quick to compare ourselves to others? Just the other day I was on Pinterest and I read the phrase “Comparison is the thief of joy,” and it’s true! We can get so easily spun-up and overwhelmed by comparing our lives to those of others.

“She is so pretty and she can sing. Why can’t I be like that?”

“He’s already been promoted twice and I haven’t been promoted once. What’s wrong with me?”

I have heard it said that if we focus on fixing our weaknesses than sure, we’ll fix them a little bit. But if we focus on developing our strengths, we’ll see tremendous growth. I think it’s time we start changing the way we think. Don’t you?

Celebrate the wins. Celebrate what is going right.

Over time, be encouraged, we’ll see a difference; one foot in front of the other, one day at a time. It will make a world of difference.